How To Deal With Self Hatred

Self-hatred you may have noticed can’t be improved by anything you have.  For example many people who seem to have an easy time and have a reasonable life still feel empty and shallow.  The mind tells them it must be because they are not rich enough, or because they don’t have a big screen TV.

So it is the same with having a nice body, or a boy/girlfriend, or a house, or a job. These things can help you feel like you belong and feel you are similar to everyone else who is normal, but the feeling will fade quickly, within days usually.

To the unaware mind this can be confusing and frustrating because it perpetuates the feeling that something seriously is wrong with you, you can never fill this void within.

What You Can Do

Eating whole foods in regular light meals and cutting out/down the four addictions alcohol, sugar, cigarettes and caffeine will help you feel better.  People really misunderstand just how closely linked food/diet is with feeling/mood.

Be clear in your mind that nothing you can posses or perceive has the power to make you experience self-appreciation, self-love or is a way to improve your self-esteem permanently.

You might be able to hide behind the achievements in your life, but eventually you will realise feeling OK is not about what you achieve it is about knowing more and more about what is really going on on this planet; where you fit in and why you are here with all the rest of us playing your part.

Completely forget that success equals getting a house or boy/girlfriend or having a certain career.  This is all rubbish and is ONLY what society tells us is success.  From the outside looking in I don’t have any outward signs of success yet I love my life. Why? Because at age 33 I met a man who showed me that the only thing worth doing in life is getting below all the programming from my parents and schooling and pursuing the truth about what life really is.

Why Are Some People Spiritual?

Have not all the masters said some version of ‘the truth shall set you free’? They were right, of course.  Free from what?  Well self-hatred and self loathing and worldly worries for one.

The only way to feel better and in my opinion the main way to improve self-esteem is to come to know who you are in reality. To transcend the illusion of the ego and day-by-day get back to who you were born to be and not who western society turned you into, which is a scared, separate, isolated ego which can only experience self-hatred.

All of what I say probably has not made you feel any better nor maybe even provided a solution but it is always possible it might awaken some deep truth within you and you can move away from self hatred.  Maybe you see that you have been taught a whole lot of junk about what is real and what is valuable in life.

By the way doing this work doesn’t mean you can’t have a house or boy/girlfriend.  Don’t think you have to sacrifice worldly pleasures, you can have both. Concentrate on self-discovery and the rest will come easily and naturally at the right time for you.

You are not broken but just suffering from being a long way from living the life you were designed to live.  You are not to blame for this it happens to all of us to various degrees.  Do not blame anyone but do take responsibility to get back to knowing who you really are and your life will turn around remarkably.