Radical Acceptance Makes You Feel Better

Radical acceptance is a very powerful principle to practice in your life. Great inner peace and contentment comes when you know this way of thinking about life and you may find it a way of boosting self-esteem.

When an event is about to happen or has happened take a moment to first observe the event before you..

• decide whether they are right or wrong (judge)
• interpret an event as meaning something about you
  (e.g. he forgot my birthday therefore I am not worthy enough)
• pretend it has not happened (denial)
• react to it (anger/rage for example)

Radical acceptance is to first acknowledge how something is in your life.  This doesn’t include your desires, wishes or preferences, it is simply facing the honest truth with impartial self observation and non-judgmental awareness about how things are.

In summary you can practice this and simply let go and let God. This means taking a perspective on life that is more inclusive of reality.  Faith that you are not a separate object in the world needing to be totally in control of everything.

You can know this to be true by acknowledging you didn’t produce what you know to be yourself and you simply need to look at the ocean or stars to see there is a lot you don’t know… and that is fine, in fact encouraged.

You don’t need to control every aspect of your life.  You cannot control other people and events.

If something is going to happen or has happened then instead of acting immediately and unconsciously with one of the four points above, you create some space within which you first of all observe.  Then you have conscious awareness in which to respond and the response will be more empowering and involve greater power than an unconscious reaction.