Definition of Self-Esteem, What is Self-Esteem? Poor Self-Esteem
by admin • March 8, 2012 • Self-Esteem, Self-Help • 0 Comments
A Definition
Of
Self-Esteem That May Help You
You likely have an idea of a definition of self-esteem. A self-esteem definition could be anything describing feeling bad about yourself, or good.
One of the main causes of feeling not good enough in my experience is a lack of self-acceptance. It is not related to your achievements or what you do or have in the external world.
Self-Acceptance
Reading and understanding a definition won’t get you higher self-esteem, however you are searching because at the moment you don’t like your whole self and we have to start somewhere.
By the time you finish this page I will have shared with you my simple definition of self-esteem.
As usual when people are faced with a problem, they turn to their intellect and try and understand it like it was a puzzle or crossword. Words can not easily change your experience, however words can often reach inside and grab us and make the complicated simple. From that point on you know the issue and even though it might come through intellect, that understanding can open doors for you and lead you to a transformation.
Poetry and Poetic
Just like poetry can reflect your truth back to you, so can a well worded quote or definition. I like to keep away from language and words that sound OK when put together but in reality doesn’t point you towards taking control of your experience of life.
Once such definition of self-esteem might be…
self-respect.
Sounds OK but doesn’t have anything new for you. Or try…
you are, the way you act, and how you look.
Again, doesn’t say anything to answer the question ‘what is self-esteem?’
So what is a more useful definition of self-esteem?
Remember that no one sentence or quote can capture the essence of a human experience, however I would like to hopefully simplify your thoughts and give your mind something to grasp hold of… Self-esteem is a product of the completeness of your acceptance of your human experience.
Think about a condition that has an obvious scale such as temperature. Temperature can be cold or it can be hot, or it can be anywhere along that scale. This is a more accurate way of thinking about this rather than the normal way that hot is the opposite of cold.
We call it opposite but it really is a scale of temperature. Something only exists as hot for us in the context of temperature.
So using the same analogy, if we called the vertical axis of a graph self-esteem and labeled the bottom of the scale ‘denial of your human experience’ and labeled the far right ‘acceptance of your human experience’ we might have a definition of self-esteem that not only tells you what a cause maybe, but also what you can do to improve self-esteem.
