Overcoming Low Self Esteem

Transforming your experience of yourself is the key to overcoming low self-esteem.  In 2007 two years after I had my first and most profound enlightenment experience I realised how I could learn more about my conditioning and programming.

Unfortunately you and everyone else grew up with less than ideal influences and messages.  You are subject to the messages from your parents and teachers about what is right and wrong.  However Mum and Dad or whoever took care of you have their own unique hurt and fear and this shapes the messages you receive.

Your self-image and your ideas of what is acceptable and expected is formed from these messages and your own unique interpretations of what you experience.

Improving your self-esteem is about discovering what is true below these messages.  Who are you before you believed what your hurt Father did or said to you?  What is real below this hurt layer of beliefs?  If you were told that you are good at nothing and will never be anything in life then this becomes what you believe to be true.

I am interested in what is true in reality, not just what you believe.  These beliefs cover up what is true and unfortunately you will continue to experience these beliefs as true instead of what is actually true.

If you believe you are stupid you will interpret your actions and other people’s actions and words to align with this belief.  I may say something silly (and I do at times) but I never make it mean I am stupid.   You also may say something silly and you will feel stupid and hate yourself and feel that feeling of low self-esteem.

It is the same with any trait: ugly, boring, not good enough, mean etc, etc.  Whatever you believe to be true about yourself will be how you interact with others and how you interpret what you experience.