Boosting Self Esteem

When you wonder about boosting self esteem are you thinking about a
short-term boost or a permanent boost? Overcoming low self esteem
is different than distracting yourself or gaining a boost to your ego.

You need to get very clear on what it is you actually are going for. Why do you need to get clear? Because if you truly want a permanent way of improving your self esteem then going after the short-term, impermanent, quick fixes will not achieve a transformation.

A short-term boost to your ego would be something that comes via what you perceive others think of you. For example some wanted attention from the opposite sex will make you feel better about yourself. You will feel attractive and sexy. The problem being once the attention goes away and the mind processes the experience you will be back to just you being with you.

Or you could get a breakthrough on some skill or task or business project. You could achieve that goal of earning $10,000 a month and it will feel like you have some power, influence or value in this world.

Here is a little tip for you to see if you are operating from your ego.  Have a close look at your thoughts.  Not so much the content but the structure and pattern of the content.  For example if you feel good about meeting someone or earning $10,000 per month, have a look if you are imagining other people talking about you or thinking about you.

When you have just met someone new do you imagine your friends and family being impressed with this new person?  Do you feel some good feelings as you…

• imagine other people thinking about you in a
  certain way?
• imagine other people talking about you in a
  certain way?

When you are operating from your ego, which in my experience shows up when there are other people involved in your imagination surrounding this event, it is a short-term way of improving your self esteem. It is impermanent, it will disappear as quickly as it came.

A permanent way of boosting self esteem is to operate from some part of your being that is real and authentic.  Live your life from your heart and gut.  Be vigilant when your mind engages in all that stuff about what you need to feel better.

Your mind is not designed to know what is right for you.  If you are making decisions and following ideas that you hope will make others think differently about you then I am afraid you are being inauthentic.